Tweaking when you're bored.

Do you want something, but don't know what?

Do you know what, but not how?

Do the opposite! Seriously, do the opposite.

When my wife divorced me I decided I was done with relationships. Focusing on me and my children made me happy. I have noticed that this attracted the one thing I don't want. Women who want relationships. I find that those that have what you want aren't trying to get it, that's why they have it.

Religious people listen up! Do you want God? The Atheists are closer than you are.
Do you want money? Stop working for, and depending on, it. Find a different reason for what you do.
Do you want happiness? Stop, and go do something that you hate, like getting dirty or not being responsible for once. You will find that freedom exists on the other side of yourself.

Sometimes your goals are counter productive. You use them to accomplish something yes, but then you use them as excuses not to do anything else. It's like grounding yourself. Goals are there to motivate you, not ground you or make you feel like a failure. They are there until they are attained, but they aren't the only thing that exists in your life.

If you are hitting all of your goals, you're doing it wrong. If you are never hitting any of your goals in the specified time, then you are doing it wrong. If there is no reason worthy enough to motivate you behind that goal, it's dead weight.

When it comes to getting what you want balance and dedication are the two players I want on my team always. If there are things in your life that don't help you balance and don't take dedication then they are part of the problem.

Listen to someone talk for a minute and you can tell which is off. Are they bored or are they out of balance. Are they workaholics or do they have no work ethic? They could use balance. Are they unmotivated, bored, tired, or down all the time? They could use some dedication to something outside of their current realm. First though, ask these questions about yourself, and then take your new found theme and go!

Often I will find myself bored. I find that this routine was helpful and grew me, but it's time to tweak it. I write on my mirror in my bathroom. I find that I am tweaking (not twerking, although some could use that as an item to do that they hate) and changing things at least weekly. When I find myself doubting something I ask is it me or someone imposing something on me, then I see if it would help or not. IF not, I move on, if so I tweak. Just walking into the bathroom, I can tell if something needs to change. If I'm tired of seeing that, or if it is useless and outdated.

I also don't use apps on my phone to track anything. I know they help some people, but not me. I like to listen to, and push, my body and mind. I will listen to other people's advise, specially if they know more about a certain subject than I do. In the end, it's up to me to do what I need to do.

Don't worry too much about what others do or others say because in the end you are only responsible for you.